Saturday, October 9, 2010

Four seasons of a relationship

Have you ever heard of the four seasons of a relationship? I believe most of you know what it is; perhaps, you have already experienced it before, especially for those who committed in a long-term relationship.

Spring

The transition between winter and summer. It’s broadly refers to the ideas of rebirth or renewal. Once a person started a new relationship, he/she will step into the Spring of a relationship.
When you couple with someone you like, you will have the intention to know more about him/her, don’t you? Springtime is always full of curiosity and most of the people are good at dealing with it. We will always think he/she is better than the previous one. So, our past unhappiness will slowly be gone and revel in rediscovered of the new partner.

Summer

Summertime, it is so called the romance stage. Couple will find that everything is just absolutely amazing. Both of you are still at your best behaviour. Couple are still hiding their bad habits just to show him that, Hey look, I’m so perfect.

Even when you feel like farting or digging your nose while having dinner with the bf, you will just tahannnnn until you reached home or when the bf is not around.
At this stage, your body will keep producing large amount of endorphins which makes you feel unusually happy and excited about everything in your life!! Even when you see a big hot guy/ hot chick right in front of you, you might just think that, Oh, mine is the BEST. Everyone hopes to live in a constant summertime relationship.

Autumn

I believe this happens in some of the long term relationships only; some couples are so lovely and will never get bored of the other half, so, they will be living in a constant summertime.


This happens after the last day of summertime. Relationship grows colder with each passing day. You will most likely begin to pull away from each other at this stage, and as a result, even small annoyances will become big issues. This is the stage when you define unacceptable behaviours.


If both of you are willing to tolerate, listen and solve the problems together, negotiate the landmines together, there is a possibility to reverse back to summertime before you proceed to the winter time.


Winter

At this stage, there is no shame in revealing their dislike for each other. Most of the couple will just give up their relationship at this stage and prepare for the coming Spring time.
Of course there are some cases where couple living in a constant wintertime. Is there a way for couple who have made a habit of ignoring, hurting and attacking each other to regain their long lost JOY? YES!

The best solution is by thinking of all the sweet memories. The way you met him/her, and all the sweet memories happened in between. Feel the love?


But, if both of you are not meant to be together....just let it be.